Which Values Should You Live For?

Your life values are the ones that you consult whenever you need to make decisions, especially the life-altering ones. You may not know it but you already have at least a couple of values that you are living for. However, to make full use of them, you need to identify and improve upon them if you can.

In addition, you can also add the values that you want. There is no limit to how many values one person can have, so continue adding until you are satisfied.

To help you understand and identify the core values you should live for, here are some of the most common examples:

Courage

Courage is not the absence of fear. It is doing what you need to do despite it. There are many instances in life when you will need a lot of courage, and it usually does not involve physical danger. For instance, knowing when you are wrong and apologizing might seem trivial for some. However, others are afraid of admitting their mistakes.

Courage means that you are willing to step out of your comfort zone. Even when you feel sick to your stomach, you will be doing it anyway. Regardless if you are successful in your endeavor or not, courage makes you willing to accept the consequences.

Kindness

Kindness means you are treating others the way you would want them to treat you. This does not mean that you are just being kind because you want something in return. You are doing it because it is the right thing to do. This is not just holding your tongue from saying something bad but it is actively looking to uplift others whenever they need it.

Aside from being kind to others, you should also be kind to yourself. This means you do not need to beat yourself up whenever you make mistakes. Acknowledge you messed up, learn from it, and don’t think about it again. When you practice self-care through being kind to yourself, you will be better equipped to be kind to others as well.

Patience

If someone or something is wearing your patience thin, learn to step away from the situation and breathe. If a person is actively pushing your buttons, be mindful. Try to understand why he/she is doing this and then respond with kindness and respect. Letting your patience run dry will only lead to conflict.

Integrity

Having integrity is when you speak and act following what you believe in. If you say one thing and do another, you are being a hypocrite. Having integrity is not contradicting yourself when dealing with others. Your beliefs might change over time, and if they do, you will need to adjust your actions and words to follow them.

For instance, you have no right to tell people that they should learn to live frugally when you are exorbitant with your spending. Remember, the sauce for the gander is the sauce for the goose. Put yourself under the same standards that you put on others.

Conclusion

These are only some of the values that people should live for, and there are many of them. Take some time to reflect and figure out what your values are, and then learn to actively apply them in your everyday life. Also, remember that you are not limited to the values you currently have. You can add more if you like and it is highly recommended to do so.


Are Love and Respect All We Need?

According to the Beatles, all we need is love. And if you ask Aretha Franklin, respect is important. When dealing with people and not just your significant other, do you only need love and respect? Technically, you will need more than just the two traits. However, both love and respect are some of the most important.

Why Is Love Important?

There are different forms of love, and in the context of community, this can be in the form of friendship. Every community needs to have love between its members because it is what binds them together. To give you more insight into how important love is, here are some of the reasons behind its importance:

Keeps the community peaceful

With a lot of different people sharing a patch of land, it is inevitable that there would be squabbles between neighbors. However, a community that genuinely cares about each other will ensure that petty squabbles are resolved quickly and without conflict.

Provides a sense of human connection

People have an innate need to belong. A community based on a mutual love for each other makes each member feel like they belong.

Why Is Respect Important?

Aside from love, people also need to give respect when it is due. Without mutual respect and understanding, the entire community will be thrown into chaos and this is not an exaggeration. So, why is respect important? Here are the reasons why:

Shows your sense of morality and honesty

If you show respect to all the members of the community, you are also showing other people your morals. Not showing respect means that you are lacking in morals and that there are no set boundaries that will not hesitate to break.

Showing respect also shows your honesty. If you respect a person, you will not be talking behind their back. If you disagree with someone, you will be doing so to their face. This is the most respectful thing to do. These days, respect seems quite rare, especially since everyone is hiding behind a computer.

Respect begets respect. You respect me and I’ll respect you. By knowing each other’s boundaries, the community will become a more peaceful place.

Helps build better relationships

There is no such thing as a relationship without mutual respect of some kind. For instance, you could utterly despise your business partner for having different viewpoints as you, but you do respect his business acumen and decision-making skills. A marriage without respect from either or both parties always ends up in disaster. Respect is the glue that holds relationships together.

In a community where people respect each other, there is always an atmosphere of peace. Although squabbles will always happen between neighbors, they are quickly fixed and will have no lasting repercussions when there is mutual respect.

Fosters the sharing of ideas

When people respect each other’s opinions, they allow themselves to become more open-minded. Never disregard another person’s opinions just because you do not agree with their other choices.

You should learn how to listen first before giving your own opinion. This way, the other person will also let you speak and voice your opinions or rebuttals. There will be no exchanging of ideas when both parties are engaged in a shouting match.

Conclusion

Both love and respect are important for relationships and in building communities. Are they all that you need? Most probably not but the two are absolutely necessary.  


Why We Should Help Each Other?

When you see people who obviously need your help, what do you do? Do you ignore them? Or do you find ways to help? This does not just apply to beggars and panhandlers. It can also extend to the people in your community.

There are many reasons why you should help the people in the community when they are in need. To encourage you to be more helpful, here are some of the benefits you can receive:

It feels nice

There is scientific evidence that suggests that helping others causes subtle physiological changes in the brain, making it produce dopamine. Dopamine is a brain chemical linked to feelings of happiness. This is why when you help other people willingly, it makes you feel happy.

Gives you a sense of belongingness

If you help other people, you are also making new friends. Helping the people in your community can also make you feel like you belong. If you have been feeling lonely lately, you can volunteer at your local food bank and it can immediately boost your mood.

You’ll get a sense of purpose

Helping others might help you find your sense of purpose. At some point in your life, you may feel like your life is meaningless. If you feel this way, you should volunteer your time to help others. Aside from making you feel good about yourself, you may also find this activity quite fulfilling and empowering.

Gives you a new perspective

Sometimes, you might get a feeling like nothing is going your way. Helping others will make you see that there are other people who are less fortunate than you are. When you help others, your view of your current situation will change. You will most likely learn that you are luckier than others, thereby making you feel more grateful.

Kindness is contagious

Researchers found that people tend to become more generous after they see others doing the same. You may have seen how volunteers at homeless shelters look like they are happy and content, inspiring you to do the same. You may also serve as an inspiration to others when you help your community.

You’ll live longer

This might sound incredible but it is true. When you help others, it can manage your stress much better. If you are not stressed, you are less likely to suffer from heart disease, which is the leading cause of death in the country. In addition, helping others is a great way to prevent and get rid of depressive thoughts.

It works wonders on your self-esteem

People who volunteer and help people in need have higher self-esteem than the average person. If you have always struggled with your self-confidence, try helping the people in your community. You will find that the more people show their gratitude, the higher your confidence reserves will be.

You connect to more people

Whenever you help other people, they stop being strangers and turn into your friends. It is always nice to have more friends because when you fall into hard times, you will surely have at least one person who will be happy to lend a hand.

Helping others also lets you help yourself because of all the benefits that you will be receiving. If someone in your community needs your help, even if they are not asking for it, ask them what you can do to be of assistance.


Why Are We Different?

There are no two people who are exactly alike. Even identical twins are not the same. Imagine if everyone is exactly like each other, the world would be such a boring place.

What makes an individual unique? Aside from appearances, different aspects of people’s lives make them different from each other. You might have something in common with another person, but you are still unique because you have other qualities. When combined, your unique qualities make you different from others.

Personality

A person’s personality is made up of his attitude, behavior, character, beliefs, temperament, and a host of other qualities. You have your own personality. No one else has the same combination of traits that you have. Even completely identical twins are not the same in this regard.

More than looks, people would describe each other according to their personalities, like if someone is agreeable or annoying, thoughtful or rude, and more.  

Beliefs

Your unique life experiences and perception are responsible for creating your beliefs. Because no one could experience exactly the same things that you did, your beliefs are uniquely your own. What you believe about yourself, others, and the world, in general, is your own. Even your beliefs in what constitutes right from wrong will be different from others.

In addition, beliefs tend to change over time as the person experiences even more things. This means that future you and present you might not have the exact same beliefs.

Perception

One of the things that you do not share with anyone else is your perception of life. There may be times when you and your friends see eye-to-eye regarding certain issues, but that does not happen all the time. Also, it is impossible for you and another person to see things exactly the same way. There will always be some discrepancies.

Goals

What you desire the most differs from anyone else on the planet. You might have somewhat the same general goal as other people, but what you want to achieve may be slightly different.

For example, if your goal is to become the owner of a successful business, your definition of being successful will not be exactly the same as that of another person. You might want to be able to make a certain amount of money regularly, or you believe that having influence over people is more important.

Hobbies

You have your own hobbies, and although it is possible to share the same hobbies as others, your approaches would not be exactly the same. For instance, even if you and your friend both love anime and you also like the same shows, your views will not be identical. This is why the two of you sometimes have arguments about your favorite shows, and that is okay.  

Communication Habits

Even the way you communicate with other people is unique. When you communicate with others, you let your personality shine through your words. You might be loud and outspoken. You are always saying what’s in your mind. Or you might be someone who’s reserved and would rather keep your thoughts to yourself. Some people are great at picking up on body language cues while others are seemingly oblivious to them.

Conclusion

In some ways, people can be quite similar to each other. However, saying that someone is exactly like you is quite impossible. Also, you won’t like it if someone looks, acts, and behaves like you because it will rob both of you of your identities. Your uniqueness is what makes you human.


Why Are We All the Same?

There are almost 8 billion people in the world today, and as hard as it is to believe, we are all the same. We may not live in the same country or continent. We may not speak the same language, and our skin colors are different, but we have more in common than you think.

Everyone Has a Story

Although we are all guilty of treating each other like it, people are more than just statistics. Everyone has their own story, and if given the opportunity, everyone would like to tell theirs. All people have their origins, faced different challenges, and achieved victories that shaped them into who they are now.

If you ask a person to tell you his/her story, you will most likely find at least one thing in common. You can also put yourself in the other person’s shoes and give yourself a new perspective on your own life’s journey.

Everyone Has Fears

You may not want to admit it but there is at least one thing that you are deathly afraid of. Your fears might seem rational to you. To others, they might seem absurd. For instance, venustraphobia is the fear of beautiful women. You may think this is weird, but for the person suffering from it, it is terrifying.

Although fear does have the potential to divide people, the fact that everyone has fears is a reminder that people are not so different from each other. You can share the feeling of having a crippling fear with another person. You can also find some way to overcome your fears together.

Everyone Has Value

All people are worthy of your respect. Everyone has their gifts and they also have dignity. You should not let anyone take this dignity away from you. You cannot lose your dignity unless you permit it. Whenever you see someone stripped of their dignity, you feel outrage welling inside you. This is an inherent quality within everyone. Some people just hide it better than others.

To find common ground with other people, you can start by keeping in mind that you are talking with a person with an inherent value equal to your own. Seeing this value in people will lead to more harmonious relationships with others, which they will then reciprocate towards you.

Everyone Has Imperfections

No one is perfect and no one should be more aware of your imperfections than you. Most of the time, you can be quite forgiving for whatever imperfections that you have, but there are also times when you forget that others are just as imperfect as you are. You might be giving yourself too much grace for the times you treat other people badly, but when the same is done to you, you blow your top.

To find common ground with other people, provide others with the same amount of forgiveness that you would give yourself for your imperfections. Remember that you make mistakes, too, and other people would forgive you for them. It is only normal to do the same.

Conclusion

Put simply, the things that make people different from each other are also the ones that make them similar. Keep in mind that regardless of your status in life, your nationality, skin color, and others, you still have more things in common with other people.


Why Do We Live in Communities?

Even extremely introverted people who would rather spend most of their time alone need to be part of a community. The need to belong is an innate human trait that cannot be ignored.

The need to belong, also called belongingness, is the human emotional need to be a part of a group, whether it is at school, work, church, or any religious organization. This need centers around feeling accepted, gaining attention, and support from other people, as well as providing the same.

So, why do people need to be part of a community? Here are some of the most valid reasons:

Support

If you are part of a community, you will not only receive support from other people when you need it but also provide it. We are all living in a world that is full of stress and dread, and there is no better time to help each other than now. If you are struggling with problems, it is always nice to know that there are people you can count on to help.

Learning

Being a part of a community opens up a large resource of valuable knowledge and insight. For instance, if you have a certain hobby, joining a club or group with the same interest will allow you to enjoy the activity even more. You might think that you already know everything about a certain subject but you will be surprised at how much you can learn from other people.

Security

Most grazing herbivores tend to stay in herds. This is so they can better protect the weak and the old. In the wild, the predators would pick out the weak from the herd, which is why they are usually in the middle of the herd. This is the same reason why people like to belong in a community.

A community is a group of people on good terms with each other and would look after each other’s backs. With everyone looking out for each other, you can keep the entire community safe and secure.

How Can You Boost Your Sense of Belonging?

So, how can you increase or improve your sense of belonging? Here are some tips:

Make a conscious effort

It may seem difficult for you to meet new people, but you will get the hang of it in time. Even if you are introverted, you should make an effort to engage with the people in your community. You need to put in a bit of effort to increase your sense of belonging.

Be mindful

Do not focus too much on yourself and be more mindful of the needs of other people. When speaking to other people in your neighborhood, make the conversation more about the other person instead of you. Ask questions, make small talks if necessary, and learn to listen more so you can react accordingly.

Have an open mind

Another way to become part of a community is to try new activities. Check your church’s bulletin boards for any neighborhood clubs or activities that you can join, like a gardening club or a book club. Find something that interests you so you will have fun too.

Conclusion

No man is an island. Sooner or later, you will discover that you need to have other people in your life. Being a part of a community, in whatever kind of capacity you can, will provide you with the sense of belonging that you need.